My life has been rough since I was three years old. I’ve been sexually abused by three people. It happened when I was three, six, seven, and nine years old. It’s always been someone related to me. Life hasn’t always been that bad. Then again most of my life I was raised by my real mom. I had to take care of my little brother all by myself when I was only seven years old.
Surviving difficult times can be hard and also easy. My life has been easy and also hard at times. I think the hardest time I have ever lived is what I am in now--foster care. Foster care has been hard for me even though I haven’t been in it very long, just since April 20. The reason it’s been the hardest is because I was so close to my mom, because when the last abasement occurred, my mother asked me what had been going on. She caught the 3rd person abusing me twice. I told her to let him stay the first time because I was very afraid of him. He had threatened to kill my mom and my little brother. It wasn’t my fault or my mom’s either. It was his. He knew what he was doing was wrong.
First, when you become a foster child it will be a little different. But, on the other hand it will be quite easy to meet a new family. For example, when I first became a foster child, I was so afraid that she would not like me. But, however, she really was gentle and loving, and I stayed with her for two years.
Most important, some foster parents have really strict rules. Such as, ask before you go out; be in the house before dark, and they have to know where you are and whom you are with. Also, they have other very common rules like, clean what you mess up, no eating in the rooms, etc. They do this because they care about you as you were their real children and they don't want anything to happen to you.
However, foster parents also look at how messy or neat you are. Such as if you keep your room clean, or do you clean after yourself. They prepare you for independent living. So that’s why they will be always on your back about things.
If I had to give advice to other foster kids, I would say if you’re shy of your foster house, well, don’t worry. You will get used to it fast. For instance, when I came, I got used to it fast. Also, when I came, I was kind of worried that I would not have a friend for a while.
A couple of weeks later, you will have a friend.If you’re shy of your new classroom, you will get used to it fast like I did. If you are worried that you don’t have that much stuff, you will get lots of stuff. I got lots of new toys by being good and helping out my foster parent. If you don’t know how to read, they will teach you. My foster mom is nice and takes care of me. Even if your last name isn’t the same as your foster family, don’t worry, people will understand
The first time I encountered a difficult time in my life, it was one of the saddest days that I can remember. For instance, when I got taken away from my mother, I cried and cried. I still have lot of memories and dreams about her. With lots of help from my two therapists, my life, faith and heart all have new destinies.
The second difficult time in my life was when I had to keep on moving from foster home to foster home. I have moved to about six different homes now, and that has not changed my great hope for waiting my turn to get adopted. My faith is really high right now. My caseworkers have, both, done a terrific job supporting me. They have even put me in a great agency, and all together, I have survived